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Winfo acronym7/25/2023 ![]() ![]() ![]() This may seem counterintuitive in a forum dedicated to calling people assholes, but the rules clarify that “it’s not about calling someone ‘an asshole’, it’s about finding who ‘the asshole’ is in a situation.” The moderators explain that “We are ALL ‘The Asshole’ at one point or another in this lifetime,” and that the point is to judge a specific action, not someone’s personality. Despite regular complaints in the comments about “double standards” in favour of women over men, it’s not hard to find a misogynistic undertone to many conversations.īut while you’re encouraged to be as judgmental as you like, that doesn’t give you licence to be nasty, and the first rule of the subreddit is “Be Civil”. Issues with parents and young relationships come up regularly, and advice in the threads often seems youthfully naive in its idealism. ![]() Or the guy who thought his upset wife was overreacting when he triumphantly beat her at Scrabble by playing the word “miscarry” – shortly after she’d had a miscarriage.Īs with all subreddits, it’s quite possible some posts are made up – r/AmItheAsshole advises people to use throwaway accounts to maintain their privacy and encourage them to speak freely about truly assholish behaviour – and the demographics of Reddit users likely also affect the kind of posts that are made and verdicts given. There’s the guy who didn’t understand why his girlfriend occasionally wanted to eat out at restaurants, given the meals she cooked every day were just as good as restaurant food anyway. ![]() Occasionally, however, you come across a post that is so jaw-droppingly oblivious it gains immediate asshole consensus. These tend to split commenters, with people sympathising with both sides and often giving the poster the benefit of the doubt. Many posts follow common themes, such as arguments over household chores, wedding drama and family feuds. The most enjoyable posts to lurk on are those that feature relatively low-stakes complaints by people who refuse to accept that they are in the wrong (the man who cried gender discrimination because his manager said it wasn’t appropriate to wear crocs to work) or those by people who seem completely unaware of general standards of etiquette (the woman thought it was fine to question the paternity of her friend’s children, because hey, she did it in private). They make endless edits to their post, adding extra information they feel justifies their actions, and arguing with dissenters in the comments. Most posters take their judgment in their stride, and often commit to apologising or otherwise correcting their error if they are judged to be The Asshole one of the subreddit’s main rules is “Accept your judgement”. Others bring events that happened years before but are still niggling at their conscience, or use the forum as a moral litmus test for actions they’re considering taking in the future. Most posters evidently come to the subreddit in the belief that they are not the asshole, but either want validation or have been told by others that they were in the wrong and want an external perspective. Queries range from the gloriously petty (AITA for ordering jalapenos on my pizza intentionally to stop my wife eating it?) to the seriously heavy (AITA for firing an employee after his parents died?). ![]()
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